How do I deal with my mother's inappropriate behavior?

Listen that is verbal abuse. It can cause Extreme stress and that can lead to terrible health problems . Im not only talking about heart attacks and stroke . Look at this website a href="http://www.lesstress.net/diseases-caused-by-stress.htm" rel="nofollow"http://www.lesstress.net/diseases-caused…/a scroll to the graph . You can start getting gray hairs and when your 30 u can look like a grandma if u stress out way to much . You need to write a letter to her and an email soo she cant interrupt you.You need to tell her all the things shes doing to you and your family and your marriage . Screen calls keep tons of DISTANCE way from her. Then about a month later talk to her tell her that she needs to tone it down and realize that ur life doesn't revolve around her. If she isn't ok with that don't talk to her at all . Send Christmas cards and holiday cards but that's it . Find an aunt or uncle your daughter can love or even close friends don't let her call them grandma and grandpa .You said that you love your step dad well he should see whats going on and understand why your doing what your doing . Talk to him on the phone and get your mm a diary if she wont stop calling about her problems . She needs someone of something to tell all her problems to . hope it all works out...